“YOU ARE USELESS IF ANOTHER MAN TAKES CARE OF YOUR CHILD, EXCEPT YOU ARE DEAD” – SONNIE BADU
Award-winning UK-based Ghanaian gospel artiste, Sonnie Baduhas described absentee fathers as useless men.
According to him, a man must ensure that his presence is felt in the life of his children. He explained that while he understands that some relationship dynamics such as divorces can lead to fathers being separated from their children, it does not mean that these fathers should excuse themselves from their children’s lives.
Speaking in an interview on 3 Music TV, he blamed absentee fathers for young boys questioning their sexualities.
“You’re useless if another man takes care of your child except you’re dead or something, you’re useless man. There’s been scenarios where there’s a divorce and a child but the father is not responsible and the stepfather is taking everything.
“I find it very offensive because boys need their dads, most people who are struggling with their sexuality is as a result of living with mummy throughout, so all their visuals were mummy making up, mummy in high-heels, there was no man to man them up, most of them.”
He quickly added that, “most of the girls who have been abused in life as a result of not having a father who they could run to for shelter and love so they run to other men who take advantage of that”.
He also noted that fathers who have shirked their responsibilities at home have unduly burdened their wives who have to also assume fatherly functions to keep the home afloat.
“Naturally if you’re a man you’ve got to provide but then some men have not provided and its made the women become men in the house because if they don’t do it there will be a problem in the house or the children will struggle and men have those tendencies of not really caring, they just go out and the women have to fend for themselves.”
Sonnie Badu advised fathers to take their parental roles seriously.
“Fatherhood in the house is a big deal. And hey, talking to every man, if you have a child anywhere, go find your child”.
